Once everything is set out, he allows her to choose first before he follows. (He figures they will both eat a bit on their own, then work on 'ensuring' the other has eaten well enough by helping.)

"What is the process now?" He asks, after a few moments of eating, while wrestling a bit of bread and cheese to cooperate. "You do not have to go into great detail, I would just like to know before we go on that day."